Dating For Dummies
Dating sucks! Take it from a possible recovering serial dater. Dating apps rule the world, people are afraid to approach others in public, nakedness is at the gym, the beach, walking down the street, Youtube.
How do you try to get into a healthy relationship? Here is what I have so far and the best way that I see getting off the Red Light District hamster wheel.
First, stop jerking off. Stop looking at porn. Yes this is a controversial topic but, you’re still reading this because you’re still curious. I stopped masturbation and porn years ago and never felt better. This will help make you more sensitive to women and will increase your urge to want to go out and have sex, to go out and approach, or just go out! I could write a whole article on the benefits above but I’ll create another article about it.
Next, stay off dating apps. This has been the worst for me. You go on a date, you think you had a meaningful time and then you are ghosted. Or you go on a date, Facetime the person before, they only show you their face and upper body and they’re a midget. Or 70 pounds more then what you were expecting (real stories), or have a cat you are deathly allergic to and almost die but she bakes you a cake that she thinks you should have before death.
You have just wasted your time and money when you could have been watching Bill Maher talk about nonsense in the comfort of your own home. There are so many shitty possibilities to what could happen. Not to mention, it’s gamified which means that you get a dopamine hit every time you get a match and depression when your match ditches you for a Fight Club Brad Pitt looking guy.
Online dating gives you a false sense of love and care from random strangers. Here’s a thought, if you were in the hospital or sick with COVID, do you think your random dates from the past year would be there.
Finally, and this one is big, start figuring out things you want to do that you enjoy instead of doing things that you think will have an abundance of women or men there. I spent some of my 20s doing activities that I thought would meet me Ms. Right. Turns out, you will meet that awesome person but because you are not into the actual activity you met them at, the hook up with fizzle quick because what do you really have in common.
To recap, how do you meet the person of your dreams? Get off porn, find a hobby and do it often, when they come in, approach them and say hello. Make sure to get their number as a friend. Invite them out to friendly occasions and get to know them. See what they are like before you fuck them and ruin the friendship that you could have had which would have given you the inside scoop into who they really are. Oh, and just because the relationship starts off as a friendship doesn’t mean you will get friend zoned. There are ways to make sure that won’t happen but that could be a few more pages.
